Three Tuesday Thoughts

:: Three Tuesday Thoughts :: 

These are not my flowers but I certainly wish they were

#1 

Sometimes being a stay at home mother is lonely and hard. I have had this re-occuring realization that no matter where we live and what type of house we buy that at some point it will be lonely. I am currently on a path that is different than most people I know. I am blessed and very lucky to stay home with my children when they are little while beginning to embark on a new and different career path of writing and becoming a student again. But some days when we walk to the park and there isn't a soul around it feels like a ghost town. I am a former military wife so having friends close by was a given as we lived on base and other women were in the same boat ( no pun intended) as me. Friends were easy to come by and loneliness did not exist. In the civilian world, the tribe of friends is gone and I am faced with the new challenge of making new friends. That isn't ever easy for anyone but I am trying. It also helps that I am a "do-er" and have many things to occupy my time. But it is hard at times and don't get me wrong whether you are at home or at work motherhood is the most difficult job in the world. My take from this is to support your mama friends no matter what path they chose because we could all use a little more love in our lives.

# 2

To bounce off of the first thought. I did something in the past couple days to stop that feeling of loneliness. I went to a party where I only knew two other women and made some new acquaintances. I always feel a bit of anxiety when entering a room of strangers and sometimes make excuses not to go just avoid that feeling. But it was a very good friend's birthday and I wasn't going to pass up the chance for us to spend a little time talking, eating, and enjoying adult time. Then today, I joined a blogging group, Catholic Women Blogger Network. A big leap because I just did two things in one week to make new friends. I am proud of myself. I have been a bit spoiled in my younger years because I went to a small college, joined a sorority full of amazing women, and then got married and entered the world of military wives (another amazing group of women)- all the friends I needed just add water.  So, now I am out here without either group and I am making new friends. Time to give myself a little pat on the back.

#3 

Sometimes dinner doesn't go as planned and one must wing it or in this case my husband is making homemade pizza. I forgot to thaw out something, didn't make bread (yes, I know that seems silly but you have no idea how much we love bread this house), and then our oldest came home not feeling well. So, out the window went dinner plans and in came our old friend, pizza. It is homemade and incredibly wonderful of my husband. I think I will grab my knitting, pour a glass of wine, go sit on the floor with my kids and pretend that is not Tuesday.